Enhancing Relationships

Trust is a very important factor for all relationships.

When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship.

Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.

A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call.

She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence.

She repeated, "PUB."

There was still no answer.

When she was going to cut off the line, she heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the number from my husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is."

Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".

Changing One's Character

Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much.

People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage.

Actually, this is not the case.

There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character."

It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.

It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations.

Fall In Love and Fell Out Of Love

The Meaning Of Love

We can never understand why two people fall in love. Love is more than just words. It is more than the interests, attractions, concerns and attributes that two people share. When love comes, some fall in love while others fell out of love. We don't know why. Love just moves on and continue to bring blessings and sorrows to more and more people.

Love Is A Gift To Be Treasured

When we fall in love, we must take firm hold of it and celebrate it in all its beauty. It is our very dream comes true. And we must never stop to treasure every single moment of our love.

Love Is A Gift That May Not Stay

Some refuse to see love as a gift that comes and goes. When they fall out of love, they try desperately to reclaim the love that is lost, rather than accepting it as a gift, and quietly move on in their life. They try to find out what is wrong in them that makes the other person no longer love them. They try to make changes, thinking that if things were different, love would bloom once more. They blame their circumstances and decide that if they go on a long journey and start a new life, their love will grow again. They try anything and everything to give meaning to what has happened. But there is no meaning beyond the fact that love in itself is a gift that may not stay.

When Love Is Not Returned

If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just refuses to rest in the other person's heart. If you find out that someone is in love with you but you don't love him back, feel honored that love came and called at your door, but gently refuse the love you cannot return. Do not take advantage; do not cause pain.

When Love Chooses To Leave

If you fall in love with another, and he falls in love with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it nor to assess blame. Let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time. Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do is to accept it for all its mysteries when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you. Give it to others who are poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in any way you can.

Love Is A Gift To Be Shared, Not Possessed

Some people understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places that must be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them. They seek love but never generate love to others. They forget that love is a gift to be shared with others for the good of the world.

Love Is Always A Mystery

Love has its time, its season, and its reason for coming and going. We cannot bribe it or reason it into staying. We can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to us. But if it chooses to leave, there is nothing we can do or should do. Love always has been and always will be a mystery. Be glad that love came to live for a moment in our life.

Real Love

It was a busy morning, approximately 8:30 a.m., when an elderly gentleman in his 80's, arrived to have stitches removed from his thumb. He stated that he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9:00 am.

I took his vital signs and had him take a seat, knowing it would be over an hour before someone would to able to see him. I saw him looking at his watch and I decided since I was not busy with another patient, I would evaluate his wound.

On examination, it was well healed, so I talked to one of the doctors, got the needed supplies to remove his sutures and redress his wound.

While taking care of his wound, we began to engage in conversation. I asked him if he had another doctor's appointment this morning, as he was in such a hurry. The gentleman told me no, but he needed to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife.

I then inquired as to her health. He told me that she had been there for a while and that she was a victim of Alzheimer' s Disease .

Gift Of Love especially for you, my love

As we talked, I asked if she would be upset if he was a bit late. He replied that she no longer knew who he was, that she had not recognized him in five years now.

I was surprised, and asked him, "And you still go every morning, even though she doesn't know who you are? "

He smiled as he patted my hand and said, " She doesn't know me, but I still know who she is." I had to hold back tears as he left.

True love is neither physical, nor romantic. Real love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be, and will not be.

A Silent Love

From the very begining, the girl's family objected strongly on her dating with this guy. Saying that it had got to do with family background and that the girl would have to suffer for the rest of her life if she were to be with him.

Due to family's pressure, the two of them quarrelled very often. Though the girl loved the guy deeply, but she always asked him: "How deep is your love for me?"

As the guy was not very good with his words, this often caused the girl to be very upset. With that and also the family's pressure, the girl often vented her anger on him. As for him, he only endured it in silence.

After a couple of years, the guy finally graduated and decided to further his studies overseas.

Before leaving, he proposed to the girl: "I'm not very good with words. But all I know is that I love you. If you allow me, I will take care of you for the rest of my life. As for your family, I'll try my best to talk them round. Will you marry me?"

The girl agreed, and with the guy's determination, the family finally gave in and agreed to let them get married. So before he left, they got engaged.

The girl went out to the working society, whereas the guy was overseas, continuing his studies.

They sent their love through emails and phone calls. Though it's hard, but both of them never thought of giving up.

One day, while the girl was on her way to work, she was knocked down by a car that had lost control.

When she woke up, she saw her parents beside her bed. She realised that she was badly injured.

Seeing her mum crying, she wanted to comfort her. But she realized that all that could come out of her mouth was just a sigh.

She had lost her voice......

The doctors said that the impact on her brain has caused her to lose her voice.

Listening to her parents' comfort, but with nothing coming out from her, she finally broke down.

During the stay in the hospital, it's just the silence cry that companied her.

Upon reaching home, everything seemed to be the same. Except for the ringing tone of the phone which pierced into her heart everytime it rang.

She did not wish to let the guy know, not wanting to be a burden to him.

She wrote a letter to him saying that she did not wish to wait any longer. With that, she sent the ring back to him. In return, the guy sent millions and millions of reply, and countless of phone calls.

All the girl could do, besides crying, was still crying....

The parents decided to move to a new place, hoping that she could eventually forget everything and be happy.

With the new environment, the girl learnt sign language and started a new life, telling herself everyday that she must forget the guy.

The love that has no bounds

One day, her friend came and told her that he was back. She asked her friend not to let him know what happened to her. Since then, there wasn't anymore news of him.

A year had passed and her friend came with an envelope, containing an invitation card for the guy's wedding.

The girl was shattered. When she opened the letter, she saw her name in it instead.

When she was about to ask her friend what was going on, she saw the guy standing in front of her.

He used sign language to tell her: "I've spent a year's time to learn sign language, just to let you know that I have not forgotten our promise. Let me have the chance to be your voice. I Love You." With that, he slipped the ring back into her finger. The girl finally smiled.