Monday, June 2, 2008

Real Love

It was a busy morning, approximately 8:30 a.m., when an elderly gentleman in his 80's, arrived to have stitches removed from his thumb. He stated that he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9:00 am.

I took his vital signs and had him take a seat, knowing it would be over an hour before someone would to able to see him. I saw him looking at his watch and I decided since I was not busy with another patient, I would evaluate his wound.

On examination, it was well healed, so I talked to one of the doctors, got the needed supplies to remove his sutures and redress his wound.

While taking care of his wound, we began to engage in conversation. I asked him if he had another doctor's appointment this morning, as he was in such a hurry. The gentleman told me no, but he needed to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife.

I then inquired as to her health. He told me that she had been there for a while and that she was a victim of Alzheimer' s Disease .
Gift Of Love especially for you, my love

As we talked, I asked if she would be upset if he was a bit late. He replied that she no longer knew who he was, that she had not recognized him in five years now.

I was surprised, and asked him, "And you still go every morning, even though she doesn't know who you are? "

He smiled as he patted my hand and said, " She doesn't know me, but I still know who she is." I had to hold back tears as he left.

True love is neither physical, nor romantic. Real love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be, and will not be.

A Silent Love

From the very begining, the girl's family objected strongly on her dating with this guy. Saying that it had got to do with family background and that the girl would have to suffer for the rest of her life if she were to be with him.

Due to family's pressure, the two of them quarrelled very often. Though the girl loved the guy deeply, but she always asked him: "How deep is your love for me?"

As the guy was not very good with his words, this often caused the girl to be very upset. With that and also the family's pressure, the girl often vented her anger on him. As for him, he only endured it in silence.

After a couple of years, the guy finally graduated and decided to further his studies overseas.

Before leaving, he proposed to the girl: "I'm not very good with words. But all I know is that I love you. If you allow me, I will take care of you for the rest of my life. As for your family, I'll try my best to talk them round. Will you marry me?"

The girl agreed, and with the guy's determination, the family finally gave in and agreed to let them get married. So before he left, they got engaged.

The girl went out to the working society, whereas the guy was overseas, continuing his studies.

They sent their love through emails and phone calls. Though it's hard, but both of them never thought of giving up.

One day, while the girl was on her way to work, she was knocked down by a car that had lost control.

When she woke up, she saw her parents beside her bed. She realised that she was badly injured.

Seeing her mum crying, she wanted to comfort her. But she realized that all that could come out of her mouth was just a sigh.

She had lost her voice......

The doctors said that the impact on her brain has caused her to lose her voice.

Listening to her parents' comfort, but with nothing coming out from her, she finally broke down.

During the stay in the hospital, it's just the silence cry that companied her.

Upon reaching home, everything seemed to be the same. Except for the ringing tone of the phone which pierced into her heart everytime it rang.

She did not wish to let the guy know, not wanting to be a burden to him.

She wrote a letter to him saying that she did not wish to wait any longer. With that, she sent the ring back to him. In return, the guy sent millions and millions of reply, and countless of phone calls.

All the girl could do, besides crying, was still crying....

The parents decided to move to a new place, hoping that she could eventually forget everything and be happy.

With the new environment, the girl learnt sign language and started a new life, telling herself everyday that she must forget the guy.
The love that has no bounds

One day, her friend came and told her that he was back. She asked her friend not to let him know what happened to her. Since then, there wasn't anymore news of him.

A year had passed and her friend came with an envelope, containing an invitation card for the guy's wedding.

The girl was shattered. When she opened the letter, she saw her name in it instead.

When she was about to ask her friend what was going on, she saw the guy standing in front of her.

He used sign language to tell her: "I've spent a year's time to learn sign language, just to let you know that I have not forgotten our promise. Let me have the chance to be your voice. I Love You." With that, he slipped the ring back into her finger. The girl finally smiled.

Tree, Leaf, Wind and Love!

Part 1 Tree... People call me Tree...

I had dated girls when I was in the university. There was one girl I love a lot but never dared to go after. She didn't have a pretty face, a good figure or any outstanding charm. She was just a very ordinary girl. I liked her. I really liked her. I liked her innocence, her frankness, her intelligence and her fragility.

The reason I was not going after her was that I felt somebody so ordinary like her was not a good match for me. I was also afraid that after we got together all the feelings would vanish. I was also afraid of other people's gossip against her.

I felt that if she were my girl, she would be mine ultimately. I believed I didn't have to give up everything just for her.

She accompanied me for three years. She watched me chasing after other girls, and I had made her heart cried for those three years.

She was a good actor, and I was a demanding director. When I kissed my second girlfriend, she bumped into us. She was embarrassed but smiled and said, "Go on!" before running off. The next day, her eyes were swollen like a walnut.

My third girlfriend didn't like her. There was once when both of them quarreled. I knew that based on her character she was not the type that would start the quarrel. However, I sided with my girlfriend. I shouted at her and ignored her feelings and walked off with my girlfriend. The next day, she was laughing and joking with me just like nothing had happened. I knew she was really hurt but she did not know deep down inside I was hurt too.

When I broke up with my fourth girlfriend, I asked her out. Later that day, I told her I had something to tell her. I told her about my break up. Coincidentally, she had something to tell me too, about her getting together...

I knew who the person was. His pursuit for her had been the talk of the university. I did not show her my heartache, just smiles and gave her my best wishes. Once I reached home, I could not stand it anymore. Tears rolled and I broke down. How many times had I seen her cried for the man who did not acknowledge her presence and her love?

During graduation, I received her SMS. It said, "Leaf's departure is because of Wind's pursuit and because Tree didn't ask her to stay."

Part 2 Leaf... People call me Leaf...

During my three years in university, I was very close with a guy. However, when he had his first girlfriend, I learnt a feeling I never should have learnt - jealousy; sourness to the very extreme. They were only together for two months. When they broke up, I hid my happiness. But after a month, he got together with another girl.

I liked him and I knew he liked me. But why won't he pursue me? Since he loved me, why didn't he make the first move? Whenever he had a new girlfriend, my heart would hurt.

After some time, I began to suspect that this was a one-sided love affair. But if he didn't like me, why did he treat me so well? It's beyond what one would normally do for a friend. I knew what he liked and his habits. But his feelings towards me I could never figure out. You can't expect me, a girl, to ask him.

Despite that, I still wanted to be by his side. I cared for him, I accompanied him and I loved him, hoping that one day, he would come to love me. I waited for him. Sometimes, I wondered if I should continue waiting. This pain and this dilemma accompanied me for three years.

At the end of my third year, a junior pursued me. Everyday he pursued me. He was like the cool and gentle wind, trying to blow off a leaf from a tree. In the end, I realized that I wanted to give this Wind a small footing in my heart. I knew the wind would bring the leaf to a better land. Finally, Leaf left the Tree, but the Tree only smiled and didn't ask Leaf to stay.

"Leaf's departure is because of Wind's pursuit and because Tree didn't ask her to stay"

Part 3 Wind... People call me Wind...

I liked a girl called Leaf, but she was so dependent on Tree. So I had to be a gust wind; a wind that would blow her away.
Leaf's departure is because of Wind's pursuit and because Tree didn't ask her to stay
When I first met her, it was a month after I was transferred to the university. I saw a petite person looking at my seniors and me playing soccer. She would always be sitting there, be it alone or with her friends, just looking at him.

When he talks with the girls, there is always jealousy in her eyes. When he looked at her, there is always a smile in her eyes. Looking at her became my habit and my hobby. Just that she never look at me, she only look at him.

One day, she didn't appear. I felt something missing. I can't explain the feeling except it's a kind of uneasiness. The senior was not there as well.

I went to their lecture hall, hid outside and saw my senior scolding her. Tears were in her eyes while he left.

The next day, I saw her at her usual place, looking at him. I walked over and smiled to her. Took out a note and gave to her. She was surprised. She looked at me, smiled and accepts the note.

The next day, she appeared and passed me a note and left. It read, "Leaf's heart is too heavy and Wind couldn't blow her away."

"It's not that Leaf's heart is too heavy. It's because Leaf never want to leave the Tree." I replied her note with this statement and slowly she started to talk to me and accept my presents and phone calls. I knew that the person she loved was not me. But I had this perseverance that one day I would make her like me.

Within four months, I had declared my love for her no less than twenty times. Every time, she would divert away from the topic. But I never gave up. I decided that if I wanted her to be mine, I would definitely use all means to win her over. I couldn't remember how many times I had declared my love to her. Although I knew she would try to divert, but deep inside I still bore a small ray of hope.

Finally, over the phone, she said, "I'm nodding my head". "Ah?" I couldn't believe my ears.

"I'm nodding my head" She replied loudly. I hung up the phone, quickly changed and took a taxi and rushed to her place and pressed her doorbell.

The moment when she opened the door, I hugged her tightly.

"Leaf's departure is because of Wind pursuit and because Tree didn't ask her to stay. "

Moral lessons

In love, we rarely win. But when love is true, even if you lose, you still win because for a moment you have loved someone more than you love yourself.

There comes a time when we stop loving someone, not because that person has stopped loving us but because we have found out that they would be happier if we let them go.

There are things that we never want to let go. There are people that we never want to leave behind. But we must keep in mind that letting someone or something go isn't the end of the world. It's the beginning of a new life. Happiness lies for those who have cried, who have been hurt, and who have been searched and tried. Only those who have experienced love can appreciate the importance of the people who have touched our lives.

A great love? It's when you shed tears and still you care for them, it's when they ignore you and still you long for them. It's when they begin to love another and yet you smile and say, "I'm happy for you." If love fails, set yourself free, let your heart spread its wings and fly again.

Remember you may find love and lose it, but when love dies, you never have to die with it.

The strongest people are not those who always win but those who stand back up when they fall. Somehow, along the course of life, you learn about yourself and realize that there should never be regrets, only a lifelong appreciation of the choices you have made.

Love is not how you forget but how you forgive, not how you listen but how you understand, not what you see but how you feel, and not how you let go but how you hold on.

It's more dangerous to weep inwardly than outwardly. Outward tears can be wiped away while secret tears scar forever.

It's best to wait for the one you want than settle for one that's available. It's best to wait for the right one because life is too short to waste on just someone.

The Missing Rib

A girl in love asked her boyfriend, "Tell me. Who do you love most in this world?"

The boy replied, "You, of course!"

The girl said, "In your heart, what am I to you?"

The boy thought for a moment and looked intently in her eyes and said, "You are my rib. In the Bible, it was said that God saw that Adam was lonely. So, during his sleep, God took one of Adam's rib and created Eve. Every man has been searching for his missing rib. Only when you find the woman of your life, you'll no longer feel the lingering ache in your heart."

After their wedding, the couple had a sweet and happy life for a while.

However, the youthful couple began to drift apart due to the busy schedule of life and the never-ending worries of daily problems. Their life became mundane. All the challenges posed by the harsh realities of life began to gnaw away their dreams and love for each other. The couple began to have more quarrels and each quarrel became more heated.

One day, after the quarrel, the girl ran out of the house. At the opposite side of the road, she shouted, "You don't love me!" The boy hated her childishness and out of impulse, retorted, "Maybe, it was a mistake for us to be together! You were never my missing rib!"

Suddenly, she turned quiet and stood there for a long while. He regretted what he had said but words spoken are like thrown away water, you can never take it back. With tears, she went home to pack her things and was determined in breaking-up.

Before she left the house, she said, "If I'm really not your missing rib, please let me go!" She continued, "It is less painful this way. Let us go on our separate ways and search for our own partners."

Five years went by. He never remarried but he had tried to find out about her indirectly. She had left the country. She had married a foreigner and divorced. Tears of anguish filled his eyes; she had never waited for him. In the dark and lonely night, he lit his cigarette and felt the lingering ache in his heart. He couldn't bring himself to admit that he was missing her.

One day, they finally met. It's at the airport, a place where there were many reunions and goodbyes. He was going away on a business trip. She was standing there alone, with just the security door separating them. She smiled at him gently.

The boy asked, "How are you?"

The girl replied, "I'm fine. How about you? Have you found your missing rib?"

The boy replied, "No."

The girl said, "I'll be flying to New York in the next flight."

The boy said, "I'll be back in 2 weeks' time. Give me a call when you are back. You know my number... nothing has changed."

With a smile, she turned around and waved goodbye.

One week later, he heard of her death. She had perished in New York, in the event that shocked the world.

It's midnight...once again.
Are you my missing rib?

He lit his cigarette. And like before, he felt the lingering ache in his heart. He finally knew, she was the missing rib that he had carelessly broken.

Sometimes, people say things out of moments of fury. Most often than not, the outcome could be disastrous and detrimental. Most of the time, we vent our frustrations at our loved ones. And even though we know that we ought to "think twice and act wisely", it's often easier said than done.

Things happen each day, many of which are beyond our control. Let us treasure every moment and everyone in our lives. Tomorrow may never come; give and accept what you have today.

Hope you all find your right missing ribs and when you find them, don't forget to tell them what they are for you.

Have a wonderful and peaceful life!

True Love

True Love Last Forever...
Lady : Why do you like me.. Why do you love me?

Man : I can't tell the reason... but I really love you.

Lady : You can't even tell me the reason. How can you say you love me? How can you say you like me?

Man : I really don't know the reason, but I can prove that I love you.

Lady : Proof? No! I want you to tell me the reason. My friend's boyfriend can tell her why he loves her...but not you!

Man : Ok...ok! Em... because you are beautiful...because your voice is sweet...because you are caring...because you are loving...because you are thoughtful...because of your smile...because of your every movements.

The lady felt very satisfied with the man's answer.

Unfortunately, a few days later, the Lady met with an accident and went into coma.

The Guy then placed a letter by her side, and here is the content:


Because of your sweet voice that I love you...Now that you cannot talk. Therefore I cannot love you.

Because of your care and concern that I like you...Now that you cannot show them, therefore I cannot love you.

Because of your smile, because of your every movements that I love you.. Now that you neither smile nor move, therefore I cannot love you.

If love needs a reason, like now, there is no reason for me to love you anymore.

But love does not need a reason. Therefore, I still love you.

She Loves Him

There was once a man who was very much in love with a woman. This romantic man folded a thousand pieces of paper cranes as a gift to his girl.

Although, at that time he was just a small fry in his company and his future doesn't seem too bright, they were very happy together.

One day, the girl told him that she was going to Paris and will never come back. She also told him that she cannot visualize any future for the two of them, so they went their own ways there and then.
Sacrificial Love

When the man regained his confidence, he worked very hard day and night, slogging his body and mind just to make something out of himself. Finally with all the hard work and the help of friends, the man had set up his own company. You never fail until you stop trying.

One rainy day, while this man was driving, he saw an elderly couple sharing an umbrella in the rain walking to some destination.

Even with the umbrella, they were still drenched. It didn't take him long to realize they were his girlfriend's parents.

With a heart in getting back at them, he drove slowly beside the couple, wanting them to spot him in his luxury sedan. He wanted them to know that he wasn't the same any more; he had his own company, car, condo, etc. He had made it!

What he saw next confused him, the couple was walking towards a cemetery, and so he got out of his car and followed... and.... he saw his girlfriend, a photograph of her smiling sweetly at him from her tombstone... and he saw his paper cranes right beside her...

Her parents saw him. He asked them why this had happened. They explained to him that she did not leave for France at all. She was ill with cancer. She loved him and she believed that he will make it someday, but she did not want to be his obstacle. Therefore she had chosen to leave him.

Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have. She had wanted her parents to put his paper cranes beside her because she loved him and could not leave him for a moment.

Once you have loved, you will always love. For what's in your mind may escape but what's in your heart will remain forever.

The man continued to weep. The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside her knowing you can't have her, see her or be with her ever again.

Please find time to realize that there are always someones who means so much to you... for you might wake up one morning losing them who you thought meant nothing to you today.